Prom is one of the most exciting event in a young girl's life -- the cute boy in the tux, the rose corsage, the candlelit dinner, the crepe paper and streamers, and of course the most important part, the dress.

For many LDS girls, finding the perfect dress while keeping their standards is quite a task. With the help of some LDS designers, though, they are able to find fun formal wear that is modest and fashionable.

By Connie Sorensen, contributor & Lori Garcia, editor-in-chief

One Girl's Mission for Modesty

LDS teen Jessica Wilcox gets her makeup done for a stake fashion show featuring modest formal wear. Special to Mormonchic.com

When high school sophomore Jessica Wilcox (Penasquitos 1st Ward, Penasquitos, California Stake, USA) surfed the Internet one day for formals and prom dresses, she was disappointed at how immodest the selection was,

"I realized that as much as I loved the unique styles, I wouldn't be able to wear any of them for my own prom when the time came," Jessica said.

But modesty and keeping with Church standards has always been important to this LDS teen.

"I think [modesty] enables others to get to know you for who you are, not what you look like," Jessica said. "...it also enables me to be myself because I'm not uncomfortably tugging at pant-tops or sleeves, and I can relax and be comfortable."

So Jessica made it her mission to "plead her case" to fashion designers for more modest choices.

"I got a lot of positive responses and even a special no-shipping costs offer from Sydney's Closet."

Modesty on the Runway

Tammy, another LDS teen from the San Diego, California, area takes a walk down the runway during the modest fashion show. Special to Mormonchic.com

Jessica even went a step further. Along with other young women in her stake, she helped put together a fashion show that featured modest designs.

"[We] got our hair and make up done and modeled our semiformal to formal gowns for our stake. It was a lot of fun and I think the girls got a lot out of it. I got to tell the young women about the project I was working on with modesty and I got a lot of support from them."

In her search on the web, Jessica did find some modest formals. She even took part in a contest to design the perfect modest prom dress, sponsored by Modest by Design. Although only the grand prize winner will have her dress created by the company, Jessica was thrilled to be a finalist.

The stake fashion show was held Saturday, October 12, 2002. Special to Mormonchic.com

"I was really surprised to find out I was a runner up...there were entries from 48 of the 50 states and even a couple from out of the country, It was a lot of fun to find out I had won something and have my picture on their website and everything."

Modest Prom Dresses a Click Away

Modest by Design isn't the only modest formal wear designer on the Internet. Holly Beck is owner/designer of Dreszing and a member of the Vicksburg Ward, Jackson, Mississippi Stake, USA. Her website offers modest gowns that she has designed and some gowns she has purchased and added sleeves. She has a large stock of dresses available to order through her website.

Courtesy Dreszing.com

“I went into fashion design because of the great need for the girls in our Church, and others, for better choices. I think I can design dresses with sleeves that the girls will think are stylish first and modest second.”

This designer, that studied fashion at Kendell College in Grand Rapids, Michigan, attributes her daughter with the inspiration for the business.

"I visited my daughter at Ricks (now BYU Idaho) while she was studying fashion design. My daughter and I sewed together and did numerous dresses before she went to Ricks."

Dreszing offers 10 different dress designs, each come in at least two different color choices and range in size between four to 14. You can check out and order Holly's designs at her website, www.dreszing,com, or call her 800 number, 1-866-285-0721. Dresses are shipped priority and can arrive in four to seven days.

Sabrina Pykles, a member of the 18th Ward, San Diego, California East Stake, USA, is the owner/designer of Sabrina Nicole Designs. Sabrina also focuses on modest formal wear This BYU-Idaho-trained fashion designer says she saw a lack of modest dresses available for LDS girls.

“I pondered and talked with a lot of other people about the needs in the fashion industry and we came up with modest formal wear to be the biggest need."

Courtesy Sabrinanicole.com

Sabrina says her design inspiration comes from the latest trends.

"My designs are inspired by what is hot in the market and with a Sabrina Nicole twist. I look through lots of magazines. I like to be original though. But the girls that are looking for modest formal gowns are looking for something that is just like the strapless and spaghetti strap dresses but with sleeves and necklines. They want to fit in but be covered. No one said you have to be out of style to be modest; I'm trying to give the girls what they want.”

Sabrina Nicole Designs offers six styles ranging in sizes four to 18 in most dresses. The dresses are available to order from Sabrina's website, www.sabrinanicole.com, and are shipped the same day they are ordered.

Sabrina looks to better supplying the needs of LDS girls in the future. Nordstrom’s department store has heeded the call for appropriate prom wear. They will be featuring Sabrina’s designs at their Southern California prom fashion shows later this month.(See a list of times/places of the fashion shows.)

“The future looks very bright. There are great girls out there that want modesty. I hope that our next season Winter/Holiday will be even a bigger production. My goal is to be in as many places as I can to give these girls the dresses they want.”

Mission Accomplished

Jessica Wilcox found the dress that she wanted. She got her prom dress at a modest fashion show in San Diego sponsored by another modest dress designer, Beautifully Modest (or Allyce Designs).

"I am very excited to go to Prom! My friend and I are planning on going with two guy-friends of ours to their high school prom... Prom is in two months, so we've still got a while to see if we're going!"

Helping Your Daughter Choose a Modest Dress
An opinion piece by Connie Sorensen, contributor

There is a website dedicated to: “Reasons to hate Mormons.” Being inquisitive, I had to see what the reasons were. High on their list of dislikes was the way the Mormon culture had dulled society. I thought that was hilarious, I think we are anything but dull. They also cited our love of “frumpy matronly prom dresses” as a reason to hate the LDS. Apparently they don’t have any sound reasons to hate us! However on the issue of ugly prom dresses, while we do strive for modesty, we certainly aren’t sending our girls to prom looking frumpy, matronly or anything of the sort. There are a number of resources we can use to find modest, fashionable, beautiful prom dresses for our daughters.

Why worry about modesty in a world where anything goes? For one simple reason, we want to honor our bodies because we were created in the image of our Heavenly Parents. Modesty is a great way to pay our respect for the gift of life on this earth. It also keeps things simple. People get ideas about a person by the way she dresses and carries herself. Perhaps this is wrong and we should never judge by appearances, but the simple fact remains that the way we present ourselves to the world is the way the world view not only us individually, but everything we represent. Things we represent are our families, communities, wards, stakes and world church family. It really isn’t a sacrifice and there are fun ways to achieve the goal of modesty at prom or any formal occasion.

There are designers out there promoting standards of excellence and modesty in formal wear. I found it refreshing that these women saw a need and went about fulfilling it, not just talking about it.

My daughter is a high school junior this year and has a prom coming up. We did a lot of research, both Internet and at various stores, before we bought her dress. I was quite surprised that although the big stores (in Utah) had mostly strapless and low cut dresses, they did have a selection of modest wear. We found that most of the modest offerings in mainstream stores were separates. They were very becoming, modest and fun. We eventually found her gown at a shop that specializes in modest bridal and formal wear.

It may be quite a project to find a modest formal, but there is alternative for moms and girls that are handy with a needle. Some of the prettiest formals are homemade, and the selection of patterns and fabrics are endless. One girl in our area is crazy about the “Lord of the Rings” movies, and wanted her dress to reflect this passion. She found a pattern, fabric and lace, which were just what she had in mind. The result was a beautiful, modest, fun and funky gown that she enjoyed wearing a great deal.

I think the bottom line is that we want our daughters to feel good in what they wear to the prom. It can be a magical night for them, and we can help by guiding them to a dress that expresses their personality and fashion sense, along with their sweetness and modesty. Many little girls in our society dream about their prom for years. If we teach them correctly and help them along the way, there won’t be any question about the type of prom dress they want to wear.

(Connie and her family are members of the Gunnison 2nd Ward, Gunnison UT Stake, USA.)

Modest Dresses Website Links:

BeautifullyModest.com

> Request a fashion show

CastleBrookWeddings.com

Dreszing.com

GoodWords.net

GreatLengths.com

> Has some dress under $100

LatterdayBride.com

LDSBridal.com

LDSProm.com

LDSGowns.com

ModestByDesign.com

> They also have a store in Midvale, Utah (7127 S 400 West)

> Enter to win a free prom dress. (Must be 16-18-years-old and able to come to their store to be eligible) Contest ends April 5, 2003.

ModestProm.com

SabrinaNicole.com

Mormonchic staffers sporting their modest fashions when they went to prom (or other fancy dance).

Lori Garcia, editor-in-chief
Connie Sorensen, contributor
Kathleen Gordon-Ross, associate editor
Heather Hales, associate editor

Lisa James, senior staff writer

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